No One Really Looks For Your Personality

There were some surprised reactions to the Dove video I posted called “No Wonder Our Perception of Beauty is Distorted.” I guess I just assumed that most folks new that celebrity photos and magazine covers were all doctored up. I even set my 10-year-old daughter down and we watched and discussed it together. I’m not sure she completely comprehended it all, but it’s a starting point. She needs to know.

There is another more in-depth video where Dove interviewed several girls about their perceptions of themselves and what they think others see in them. One comment really hit me. A young girl stated “No one really looks for your personality”. How true that is. Listen to what these girls have to say and let me know what you think. (You will have to click on the video and let it take you to youtube to watch it. Two clicks – that’s all. It’s worth it.)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Li3mg1GrKe0

3 comments

  • I really don’t care that this post was like from 3 years ago… ahh who cares I’m gonna comment anyway.

    To the first person that commented, it doesn’t just happen in high school, it goes all the way down to third grade. Although I doubt that you’re reading this…
    BACK TO THE COMMENT even in fifth grade this happens, I would know, I’m in fifth grade; and most girls now are wearing eyeliner and mascara. Some of them are even wearing blue mascara now (which, in my opinion, looked bad on them lol) and they’re the ones that are so freakin popular and have all the friends and every guy has a crush on them.

    Also, ummm about the Hooters post, why would a 10-year-old not know about that? Heh sorry I’m contradicting a lot of things here… but kids these days know a lot more than adults believe. Trust me, everyone at my school cuss and swear all the time and… okay basically we’re not as innocent as you people think.

    Okay, just wanted to point all those things out lol

  • A

    I don’t know if that’s the right direction or not. The media is definitely at the forefront of the problem. I think the answers starts at home with parents. Keeping your kids grounded in reality is incredibly important and I don’t think a lot of parents take time to do that. That’s why I sat my daughter down and had her watch the other commercial. Self-image needs to be an open dialog among parents, especially mothers and daughters. :)

  • Male(I'm BACK!)

    Well, as a high school teenager I can attest to the fact that what is spoken in the video does happen. People who are more attractive usually have more friends. Girls and boys included.

    But that isn’t to say that ONLY attractive people have friends. I have many friends that aren’t the most “attractive”(Not trying to offend) but who are popular due to their personality. But again, I go to a “Magnet, Accelerated” school in which I can see a very different attitude of students in the program when compared to “average, normal” students. So even what I say, may not be fully true for average John Smith(or Jane.)(we’re a bit more accepting, in other words)

    So the question is, how can we stop the these false images from affecting the daily lives of children to the point that they begin to engage in dangerous activities to try to imitate the images.

    This is a tough question to answer, not anything that can be solved by one person, or heck, even in a short amount of time. Is it parents job to do something? Society’s? Industries?(Film/Modeling/Music/etc?)

    But there is some change, I guess. If I’m not mistaken some European country began to institute limits on the weight of the models. You think this is heading in the right direction?

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